Psychology only child dating
The myth of the “peculiar” only child originated in the late 19th century, when a psychologist surveyed more than 1,000 kids (only 46 of whom were only children) and deemed sibling-free children more likely to be “ugly, poorly behaved, and stupid.” Unforunately, this stereotype has stuck around for more than 100 years, despite plenty of evidence to the contrary—including a large study that found only children have no disadvantage when it comes to social skills.
Let’s be real: , a large amount of research shows “singletons are no more spoiled than the overall population.” Which isn’t to say we’re not any less materialistic than others—nowadays, most parents (59 percent according to one poll) admit to spoiling their kids, regardless of how many they have.
Only children tend to be very in touch with their ~feelings.~ Having never had siblings to tease me, I can overreact when I perceive people as critical, angry, or distant in personal relationships.
And sometimes I perceive them being that way when they’re actually not.
I prefer hanging out in groups of three or four; more people can cause me to hang back.
So on behalf of all only children, please don’t mistake our shyness for snobbiness! Sorry to get morbid, but it’s pretty scary to face being the sole person responsible for your parents as they get older.
I love chatting with people one-on-one, and sometimes, after enough wine, I can be one of the most outgoing people at a party.
But as an only child, I can get super quiet in a huge group, especially if I don’t know the people really well.
The pressure pays off: Research shows only children have an intellectual advantage and score higher on IQ tests.I spent lots of time in my room—reading, drawing, playing with stuffed animals. ) Now I still treasure my alone time as a way to regain energy and spark creativity.While being comfortable being alone is a positive thing, the only downside is that I have to explain to friends and significant others that it’s not personal—I just like having a couple hours to myself on weekends to relax and recharge.”While I maintain I’m just as “normal” as anyone else, growing up as an only child definitely molded my personality and behavior in certain ways.I can thank my sibling-free status for some super-positive qualities (studious, self-motivated), as well as some less-than-great character traits (sensitive, Type A).