Dating father issues

You don’t have to have an abusive or absentee father to have daddy issues.

Since it’s Father’s Day today, this whole week I’ve been thinking about my own daddy issues, how they’ve affected me, why they’ve haunted me for so long, and really…

I am lucky enough to coach some of the most successful, well-known, and powerful people on this planet. But whether or not I get it doesn’t make nearly as much of a difference as having my own approval.

And it never ceases to amaze me how quickly they regress back to their younger, eager, validation-seeking selves when Dad sends them a simple text after skating in and out of their lives (either emotionally, physically or both) for years and years. If your Dad had a hard time expressing his emotions, accepting you or making you feel beautiful/cool/accepted/capable enough, he was most likely emotionally unavailable and unhappy with himself and his life at the time. There comes a point though when we need to realize that if a pattern exists, it’s not Dad or our boyfriend hurting us, it’s us to retraumatize ourselves because that’s all we know.

I was telling him that I couldn’t believe how a particular person in my life knew what buttons to push that would drive me over the edge.

“How do they know exactly how to get under my skin and push my buttons?

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