Dating a child of divorce
You don’t have the same clothing style as you did in high school (and thank heavens for that) so why would you have the same taste in dates?While you absolutely want to look for someone with similar core values to yours, a divorce gives you the perfect excuse to let your ideal “type” evolve.That mind sound a little dramatic—and sure, there's a chance you really have landed royalty—but Walfish points out that the harsh reality is there are a lot of people out there who aim to take advantage of women, and being in your 40s or 50s doesn't make you immune. Get regular reality checks from close friends and loved ones who can offer an outside perspective of your situation.
Visualizing your journey can help you see things you might have missed before, so take the time to actually write out your “relationship roadmap” in a journal. Talk it through with a therapist or trusted friend.
"Gandhi points to her own simmer-to-boil relationship with her husband, who she was friends with for six years before they began dating.
The ink may be dry on your divorce papers, but that doesn’t mean you’ve completely moved on.
Walfish says is a necessity for women of all ages is a good therapist.
“Being divorced isn’t something to be ashamed of, but it does mean you’ve got some things to work through, especially if you want your next relationship to be better,” she explains. A good counselor can help you work through all your complicated feelings and create a solid foundation for love, she adds.“Being able to talk openly about difficult issues like finances, fertility, children, and sex is key,” Dr. “The older you are, the more complicated these issues become and it’s better to know initially if there are any major deal breakers.” One thorny example that women in their 50s need to consider is retirement accounts, she says.